Alpha Girls
Friday, April 8, 2011
The "farce" of having it all
Friday, April 1, 2011
Subtle Sexism in the Classroom
Reading Alpha Girls has caused me to become more introspective about how my gender biases impact my classroom. In Language Arts, a subject where girls typically excel, I find myself asking my female students to read constantly. My students have noticed that I call on girls more than I call on boys to the extent that I have to purposefully select boy-girl pairs for each task. While it may improve my female students' self confidence, I am well aware that it may make the boys in my classroom feel unwanted in my classroom. My actions also reinforce stereotypical gender roles in education.
Furthermore, the push to have students succeed individually may also result in gender bias. The report showed that competition amongst students reinforce the boy's ability to succeed, especially in math and science. Girls struggled to feel confident in those subject areas, and the lack of collaborative learning allowed the cycle to continue. With the present encouragement to use collaborative learning versus a group setting are girls excelling more in classrooms? How would using the competition model foster the development of an alpha girl? Is competing in the classroom harmful when a similar model is present in employment settings?
Friday, March 18, 2011
What about the fellas? (Prompt 3)
"Unfortunately, boys don't have the abundance of positive media role models that girls have had in recent years. The hypermasculine male is still very much present on television."
Soon after, Kindlon wrote, "When I speak to audiences about boys' psychology, I often ask parents to try to think of three male characters on television that they would like their son to emulate. Parents are surprised by how difficult this is. Male characters on prime-time television tend to be buffoons, while their female counterparts are increasingly clever and capable."
He is right. I am sitting here now, able to list plenty of positive female role models on television and very few, if any, males. The chapter discusses how men are in the decline in areas of education, wealth, and social status. The lack of positive role models for young men on TV is certainly not helping this cause.
Women are on the rise in areas such as education, wealth and social status, while men are on the decline. Is one a necessary result of the other, or is something greater going on here?
Lydia Gray
Thursday, March 17, 2011
"It's important for mothers to recognize that their daughters are psychologically different from them."
Monday, March 14, 2011
Reading this Book from the Perspective of an Urban Educator (Prompt 2)
I think if I had picked up this book at any other time in my life, I’d find it to be an enjoyable and encouraging read. I’d most likely discuss a few salient points from my readings with friends, recommend it to a few people, set it on my bookshelf, and leave it at that. But now I’m an urban educator, and a large part of my life is spent working with students who live in a culture of poverty. I can’t help but bring these perspectives to my reading and understanding of the book. The result is that despite the many encouraging aspects of this book, it always seems to leave me feeling overwhelmingly discouraged. Now, I can’t just set this book on my shelf; now, it almost haunts me.
The book is clearly targeted towards white, middle-to-upper class females. The targeted demographics in the study make this clear: “There are more private than public schools and, given the demographic realities of independent schools, the affluent and white are overrepresented; approximately 15 percent of the interview sample are non-white” (xvi). Each chapter seems to be filled with encouraging data about a new generation of females and the factors that shape them, only to follow with a short disclaimer that the findings do not apply to minorities or to the poor, whether explicitly stated or not. For instance, chapter two is entirely about the positive role of the father in shaping the alpha girl. It goes unsaid that many (most?) of our own female students grow up without a father in their household. Chapter three discusses the importance of adolescence, as students go through a period of exploration which helps to develop their personalities, only to state that, “the process of becoming an adult and the qualities of autonomy…don’t play themselves out…in our culture in the milieu of poor urban children, many of whom are forced into adult roles at a younger age than their more affluent peers and who may not see themselves as having the luxury to explore their options and find themselves” (73).
I’m only on chapter four, so my feelings may change as I continue to read. But for now, why I am viewing this book from such a negative angle? Is anyone else having this experience? I just seem to spend most of the time thinking… okay, this is great, but how will my students beat the odds?
Lydia
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Family Matters
Thursday, March 10, 2011
The future of THESE alpha girls?
As I think about this, I begin to wonder if this makes these girls less aware of the reality of their goals. Do they really have an understanding of how hard it can be for a woman in some of the conditions they aspire to? Are they really prepared for the obstacles that might come their way? In no way do I mean to imply that woman should be limited by society's existing obstacles, but I do recognize that in some circumstances, these obstacles can make what may seem like an exciting, interesting and fun career into an unpleasant experience that, respectfully, even motivated, passionate people are unwilling to suffer through.
I wonder what would happen if Kindlon were to follow these "alpha girls" through college and into their twenties and thirties. I do not doubt that their determination, motivation and dedication would remain but how would their career goals change? Would they still tend toward the more high profile careers? I doubt that their confidence in their own abilities would diminish, but, as an adult, would they be willing to commit to the ambitious, and likely time professionally time consuming and demanding goals that they set out for themselves? What about families? A lot of the girls didn't really prioritize a family in their future but how might this change as they mature?
I'm interested to hear some thoughts!